Getting older is an enigma. On one hand, there’s no question that there are increased risks of illness and decreased mobility as we age. However, research suggests there is another positive side to aging that is often overlooked; that is, we should be feeling good about getting older, because as we age our perspective on life changes in remarkably positive ways.
I made lists of New Year goals and resolutions over the years, but I always found the fade out of enthusiasm and lack of results more painful than the original condition I was trying to improve. Over time, I learned to make small adjustments for much better outcomes!
One distinct, and very dated, memory I have was how I use to redirect my goals to match what my friends were doing in theirs. I accepted their preference to hang out with the same old crowd, for instance, by changing my mind about what I wanted to do in my free time. Essentially, I was living a life that was not authentic for me at all. It lasted longer than it should have, of course, but eventually, I moved away from it because it didn’t make me happy. It taught me a huge lesson, too: the less I accommodated myself to others, the more likely it was that I could remain true to my goals and what was important to me.