I made lists of New Year goals and resolutions over the years, but I always found the fade out of enthusiasm and lack of results more painful than the original condition I was trying to improve. Over time, I learned to make small adjustments for much better outcomes!
One distinct, and very dated, memory I have was how I use to redirect my goals to match what my friends were doing in theirs. I accepted their preference to hang out with the same old crowd, for instance, by changing my mind about what I wanted to do in my free time. Essentially, I was living a life that was not authentic for me at all. It lasted longer than it should have, of course, but eventually, I moved away from it because it didn’t make me happy. It taught me a huge lesson, too: the less I accommodated myself to others, the more likely it was that I could remain true to my goals and what was important to me.